Order of the Good Write

That Magic Feeling When the Words Flow. A Blog by Debi Rotmil


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Writing Lessons: You Don’t Already Know

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Today is the first day of a major online business course known as B-School. Last year, as someone who was itching to start the process of being an entrepreneur, I signed up for Marie Forleo’s popular and beloved online business program.

Once B-School launches, your personal dashboard opens a new module each week focusing on specific aspects of business and marketing.  Last year, I ate up every morsel of worksheets, books, and exercises opened to me. I designed business plans, got out of my comfort zone, emailed people who succeeded in the business I want to launch, conducted practice coaching sessions with follow up surveys, focused on what my customer avatar is and built (albeit unsuccessfully because I hate math) some form of a profit plan.

I loved it. Every bit of it. And I plan on doing it again. In fact, my heart is racing a bit and my hand is dying to click over to my account to start once more.

This time last year I had nothing. I only knew I wanted to be a coach. I knew, that in addition to writing my own projects, I wanted to use my writing to get other people to do the same.

It was imperative that I build something that would not only eventually allow me to live life on my own terms (i.e get out of the corporate world), but would allow others to come out of their shell and do the same – especially by telling their story through the written word.

Today, I have a registered sole proprietorship (that will likely morph into an LLC), a business bank account, an accountant, business cards, a website (still under construction despite giving you all a sneak peek last month), and a membership to the Association of Writers and Writers Programs (AWP) with a hefty conference coming my way. Plus, I have a future that is a little muddy, but filled with exciting uncertainty. (Mostly envisioned back in New York. A move that’s long overdue but difficult to make the financial leap. Help!)

Yet, why am I taking B-School again? Because I am never finished learning.  I’m not done obtaining more wisdom and upgrading ways of conducting business – or even optimizing the way I create.  It should be the same for you. Hey, just saying.

We should always ask questions, always be curious, always learn new things every chance we get or else we stagnate. The moss will grow over our heads, and we’ll never know why unless we take a good hard look at our process.

This also goes with writing. I am guilty of this, but we writers tend to think we already know how to write.

But sometimes we don’t already know, or we need a refresher.

Pick up that old Stunk & White book, read books like “Bird By Bird”, “On Writing Well”, “Forest for the Trees” and understand new ways to approach your personal expression, your written world.

Join meeting ups, go to conferences, take a class at a local school – get out there and have other writers see your writing.

I know I’ve commented on how writing courses can be a pain in the ass. Relying too heavily on writing courses and school and groups will overload your head with so much critiques that you might grind your writing down to a halt.

But sometimes, it’s good to get your writing out there.

If you have the intent to actually use the suggestions made by other writers in class to take action by sending work to publishers or blogs or agents – then it’s a very good thing indeed.

You are learning new things. You are not sitting by thinking that just going to a class and gathering comments is doing the work.  You are taking action by taking the lessons learned or discarding those that are of no use, and focusing on getting that work out there in blogs, newsletters, marketing tools, novels, memoirs….etc.

B-School has taught me that no matter how much work you’ve put into something, you are never fully educated. Life is a process of learning.  Each year is a building block. If you work hard, you can build new levels of accomplishment. While you gaze at those successful goals, it’s a good idea to take in more lessons to build the next block and the next and the next.

I’m not only saying this to pump you up, I’m writing this as a pep talk to myself.  I’m in the same boat as a lot of writers. We all want to create, inspire, and tell the stories that will leave a footprint behind.

But we all need keep learning, to keep writing and to keep creating.

We want to be part of history, and our history is in the storytelling.

Don’t let the moss grow over your head. Keep asking. Keep learning.

Just Grow.

 

 

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Time To Toot the Horn: ‘The Good Write’

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It takes a lot to be a writer. Self motivation, inspiration, dedication. Writing despite resistance and the negative little demons that hold you back can be a major hurdle to overcome.

While writing my book “Hitting Water”,  blogging here on “Order of the Good Write” and while working on my own written projects,  I’ve been slowly building a writing coach business to help other writers get out of their writing rut.

Embedded in the model of this biz is a charitable initiative: A percentage of my fee will be donated to education organizations like ‘Pencils of Promise’ and ‘Let Girls Learn’.

It’s my hope to help less fortunate children gain the means to write their own stories.

So, you can say – I’m building a business with a purpose.

No matter where we live, or who we are – we are brought into this world to produce something beautiful.  Nothing should hold you back – not oppression, lack of education, lack of confidence or self doubt.

It’s kind of like beaming a little piece of heaven down to earth.  Whether you are spiritual or humanistic, there’s no denying it. We are meant to bring forth something wonderful to add to this world.

There are writers out there with amazing stories destined to be shared, but everyday noise drowns out that creative voice that longs to speak.

Today, I’m launching my website TheGoodWrite.com

Although it currently lacks the bells and whistles of MailChimp, Opt-Ins, Pop Ups, PayPal and all the goodies that will eventually be tied into the site, I’m putting it out there now – in all it’s simplest form.

Because writing, like building a site from scratch, is something you work on a lot or a little everyday. Some days you devote less time than others, but you keep at it.  Little by little – you’ll see something flourish into something amazing.

Right now, TheGoodWrite.com is just a simple site containing my work, some motivational tools and booklets I’ve written, and info on how to get in touch with me for one on one coaching.

But in time, I hope to see it flourish into a subscriber based platform, where others can share their stories and in turn, help children living in oppressed conditions gain the education to enable them to share their own.

So – my wonderful WordPress bloggers and followers (and followees) – here it is — TheGoodWrite.com.

Please check it out!  Let me know what you think.

 

 


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Can’t Write? Use It To Your Advantage

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Hello writer! Happy end of the first week of 2016!

Has your holiday hang over ended yet?

Are you void of writing ideas? Even if you have time to write, just doing a stream of conscious dump text of writing for the day makes you recoil?

I hear you.

But let’s make this clear. You’re not “blocked”. There is no such thing as being “blocked”.  Believing you’re “blocked” will only perpetuate your inability to write.  So don’t say it because you’re not. You’re a creative being that is an open conduit to a creative source. You don’t “block” anything. You want the flow of words and ideas to come. (And I place quotes on the word “blocked” because “blocked” is a highly used word that is a supposed reason for not writing. Seriously. Lose that word. Screw that word.)

But sometimes we write and write and write for days, weeks and months – and like any worker who works hard – you need a break.

Yes, every regular worker takes a vacation to step away from the daily grind and replenish their energy. That includes the writer.

If you can’t find the motivation to write because you don’t want to sit still and think for an hour or two – or even ten minutes, then don’t beat yourself up over it.  Use it. This is your time to explore the world for new ideas, for new visions and new words to express your story in ways no one else can.

Take a break, but take it with the knowledge that you’re going to return to the page.

Fill the void by reading books, seeing movies, seeing friends, traveling, sleeping, and living.  Get out of your wordy, imaginative head.

And as you do these things, try to take down notes of what you’re feeling.

View the world from the perspective of a writer. Explore the senses. How does the book you’re reading make you feel? What do you see? Smell? Taste?

Do you want your reader to feel the same when they read your work? Do you want them to feel,see, smell and taste the same way?

What does that film or that online series you’re binge watching tell you about humanity? How can you infiltrate that creative energy toward the manuscript sitting all lonely on the shelf waiting for you to return?

Allow for quiet time. (If you can!)

Meditate on why you feel stumped.

Marinate on what is stopping you from even wanting to seek out writing prompts and goals. It tends to be a deep reason that goes beyond lack of time or just not feeling it. It could just mean you’re tank is empty and it’s time to fill up with super unleaded creative gas.

Is it Fear? 

Fear is our enemy. I feel it everyday and battle it with Thor-like strength. But instead of swords, I use the mental technique of ignoring fear.

In a few weeks, and hopefully it won’t take longer than that, go back to your work. Or, go back to your exercise of daily journaling and see what you’ve got. You will likely come back refreshed with new ideas and outlook.

There is truth to the writer’s adage to always be writing. But sometimes, no matter what my personal writing gurus,  Stephen Pressfield or Elizabeth Gilbert will say, taking a break from writing after a long year of dedicated work is needed.

Letting go of writing when you are empty is part of the process.

Putting it aside, and giving it a rest (like you would do with any paying job) allows you to step back and return with a better vision.

The only thing you have to do is make a commitment to this process and know you will return to face the page to write and write and write like a “motherf&*ker”, as the phenomenal Cheryl Strayed, aka ‘Sugar”, once wrote.

You didn’t think you were getting off THAT easy, did you? Yes, take a break, but you have to keep your promise to write. If you don’t, then your story – your words – your thoughts meant to go forth will never be read or heard.

Come on, don’t do that to us! We want to read you!

Take a breath.

Now write!

 

 


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‘The Good Write’: A New Year, A New Day

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Happy New Year my fellow WordPress writers!

I hope you all had an amazing, fun and restful holiday season.  I am so grateful that you’ve been following my blog over the year and a half it has been up and running! Thanks so much for your support and readership!

Furthermore, your blogs have kept me going and were a tremendous inspiration to me. I look forward to writing for you and continuing to read your work in the new year!

2015 has been a rough one. News around the world has been devastating for humanity.  Through the difficult images on the news and in our personal lives, there has to be a budding flower of goodness. I’d like to take the initiative to help us all do a little good in the world.

Let me know what you think.

It’s my intention to help bring my writing coaching company, ‘The Good Write’ into 2016 with a purpose. Not only do I endeavor to help writers find their voice to tell stories for the world to read, I also want to give back to those who do not have a voice to do so.

Children around the globe (and of course, I include the United States in this) are not able to go to school due to poverty and cultural standards imposed on children, and in some countries – specifically on girls.

For the new year, I’m offering coaching sessions for writers who are stuck writing their novels, articles or blogs at a discount.  With every writer I coach, I will donate 1% percentage of your fee to ‘Pencils of Promise’‘Let Girls Learn’ or  ‘The Boys and Girls Club of America’ respectively.

Join ‘The Good Write’ and gain a writing coach (ME!) who will not only help you meet your personal writing goals, but will allow you to help out a child in the world to get the education so they can one day write their story. The choice on which charity above you’d like a portion of your payment to go is yours. It’s tax deductible and it’s a win win initiative!

Let’s make 2016 a creative and purposeful year. Let’s share our stories, let’s live our dreams, and let’s help children who are in dire need of education to do the same.

Please email me at drotmil@gmail.com for further information on private sessions at a reasonable cost. All sessions are confidential, and your creative property will never be copied or shared.

Join me! Let’s all find creative wealth in the new year while giving aid to the next generation of storytellers.

 

 

 

 

 

 


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The Thud of the House

Screenshot 2015-02-21 13.19.39I’ve come down from the tornado. The house has landed with a thud. Silence. Heart stopping nothingness. I’m getting ready to  open to another world, leaving behind blacks and greys to sparkling blues, reds, pinks, yellows, greens. The sky will be endless, the grass will wave in the wind. Black and white will turn to the silver white lining around the cloud that sunk me – sunk me for years. I will fold into a new dimension. Just you wait and see.

Behind the scenes, I’m working on building something in the writing community that will help others find the motivation to create. In order to do this, I’m being coached by some spectacular coaches who are helping me find my corner of Oz – or at least – a vivid world of understanding, confidence and know-how, in order to spread the word.

If you read this blog, and find my motivational writing to be preachy, please know that I’m just getting my feet into the earth. I’m churning out ideas and conjuring up feelings to share to the writer who thinks he/she can’t write. It’s coming along – behind the curtains – where I’m building the switches and levers to design my vision. It won’t be a fake. I won’t be a wizard. But I will be there, fully equipped and ready to help anyone in need of getting their writing on paper. Students, Moms, hobbyist, dreamers.

So, I’ve been spinning in my cyclone, waving at Auntie Emm as she whizzes by on a rocking chair, ducking the floating cows as I enroll in B-School, sit at the feet of marketing gurus, organize my goals and find people who need me to help them write. It’s crazy balls!  I am blissfully overwhelmed. I’m currently in that moment when the house in Oz lands with a thud, and that extreme silence hovers in black and white, waiting to open the front door to a Technicolor world.


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Write Today….Be Happy Tomorrow

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A little end of week inspiration. This is an excerpt from my rambling journal on 750words.com – a website that helps you write everyday. I treat it like my morning pages. This came out. Hope it helps the writer in you. Please disregard any redundant words. This was a free flow.

If you write at least 500 words a day for a year, you actually have a nice novel brewing. Don’t lose the fight.  I realized in mid-life I had let so many days go by without doing a damn thing. If I had written 300 – 500 words or even 1000 words a day starting 20 years ago, I’d have 10 novels published by now — perhaps self published a whole library of books. I may have attracted a literary agent and publisher by now.

Don’t let your days go wasted if you feel the burning desire to write. Pick up the pencil, pen, computer keyboard and write anything. Write “I don’t know what to write” twenty times until your brain starts to open up. Then let it flow. Don’t hold back. There is always editing. Think of writing as plopping up a glob of wonderful clay – it’s the raw material of minerals and compounds – these are like sentences and paragraphs of thoughts, stories, melding scenes that pronounce scenes and illustrate the human condition. When you’re done with the blob of thought and story – then comes the editing – you take your knife and start carving it out, honing it, getting rid of a passage you love but doesn’t fit (Keep a Text dump file where you plop your scissored out passage – the ones you really like but don’t fit. That way you can  have it set aside for something else someday. It can be a morsel to the beginning of another story.) The more you carve and clip and paste and rearrange and prod, the more you’ll see your story become a concise, firm, pearl of an essay or short story or novel. This even applies to non-fiction writing which is something I did more of in the past few decades.

Write! Write like the wind! Don’t wait for a muse or an open door in your brain. You invite that all in when you sit down and begin.

Happy Friday!