“Be impeccable with your word.”

I’m re-reading “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz, a spiritual book that speaks of the practices of the Toltec – a society of men and women once known in ancient Southern Mexico to be spiritualists, scientists and seekers of truth in the human spirit.  The first “agreement” is the aformentioned sentence: “Be Impeccable with your word.”

It’s so easy to forget the things we say and how we talk about ourselves and other people. The concept of being impeccable with one’s word is to not gossip, be negative on others or one’s self, or to believe the words that other people place on you (like: You ugly!) or others (like: She’s ugly!).  Be careful with words. This concept is a building block to help the mind reset and focus on positives so your life will follow. It’s sounds all “airy fairy” but it’s not. The mind is a powerful element, and the energy of the universe is something we will never understand unless we open our minds to the flow of life. Don’t judge it – or else you stop the flow.

These words have been coming to mind lately. I’ve just witnessed the end of a professional relationship that I found to be negative. Dark energy, gossip, anger towards other people I hardly knew, and chatter on how I should be just as angry as she about her situation. This person’s behavior was unfolded before me at my desk. I never asked for it. It was presented by her almost daily.  Sadly, her negativity and poor words spread like wildfire to the point where no one had a good word about her. So sad to see how someone is mired in the depths of their own hell, trying to pull everyone down with them so they are not alone.

It’s my hope she will find light out there.

We become the people we think we are. If we believe we are crap and everyone around us is crap, then people will see us as crap. Imagine what our lives would be if we take one step toward the light and tell ourselves how totally cool we are and how cool everyone else is? Not to live in a fantasy world, of course. It’s obvious everything is not awesome and perfect. But if we approach the negatives in life with faith and good vibes, maybe things will work out best after all.

And maybe then, we won’t attract negative people who invite us to join in on their self imposed misery?  It’s up to us to RSVP “no” to that party.